di·lem·ma noun də-ˈle-mə also dī-
I shall start this post with the definition of Dilemma:
1: an argument presenting two or more equally conclusive alternatives against an opponent
2: a- usually undesirable or unpleasant choice
b – a situation involving such a choice ; broadly : predicament
3 a – a problem involving a difficult choice
b- a difficult or persistent problem
— dil·em·mat·ic adjective
Actually, this post does not have anything to do with grammar or Shakespeare… It has to do with the my day to day choices.
While it is really easy to judge some else’s behavior, I strongly believe, we should not. I don´t know what are the reasons behind someone’s actions… although the easiest thing to do is to become a strict judge and calling names (that person is a jackass, stupid, ignorant, and so on).
When you judge someone, then you are putting yourself above that person, as if she/he have less knowledge or common sense than you (and you really do not know that, at least I do not). Sometimes, it is really easy to do that, so we can justify their actions and move forward.
However, the more I interact with people, I just pay attention and I am aware of their behavior, double check whether I exhibit the same behavior (most of the time I do, and that is the reason why I find their behavior irritating), and then I just let the issue go. I doest not really matter… by not judging I am freeing myself from the heavy load of looking for errors, mistakes, and from the hardest chore of correcting those mistakes. At the end of the day, I can only change/fix myself, not others…
I do not even judge myself anymore, I recognize my mistakes, analyze them and just make my best effort to not do that again…